This is the season for resolutions, we are seeking to fix flaws and change our lives. It is our human qualities that make us want to compare, judge, control, and aspire. We can be hard on ourselves, and on our children.

We tell them from an early age what is expected of them, what we fear for them, and how we want them to comply. We are trying to help them become successful, functional, and fulfilled. They are swamped by our own fears and desires.

We mean well, but considering that our children are becoming ever more stressed, anxious, depressed, and suicidal; shouldn’t we to take a real look at how we raise and educate our children? It is time to let go of our agenda, our need to control, and our desire for compliance.

How would our collective lives change if we allowed children to trust their own instincts and feed their curiosity? What if they could be free to learn what they want in the way they feel most comfortable? How would they grow if we trusted their ability to explore their own destiny? What if we gave them the message that they are perfect beings, fully capable of bringing their future to fruition.

This year, let’s give our children the gift of unconditional love and support as they determine what they need to make their own futures. As Kahlil Gibran said, “You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.”