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We Tried Normal – 2e Family Stories By Dr. Melanie Johnson Hayes “Pity impedes the dignity of disabled people; resentment is a parallel obstacle for people with enormous talent. The pity and the resentment alike are manifestations of our fear of people who are radically different.” – Andrew...

Many 2e adults are still struggling to figure themselves out. They often have depressing memories of how confused, frustrated, and ostracized they felt as children. These memories may continue to impact their lives as they mature. The adult world can be just as harsh and...

In a decade of consulting, I have witnessed many parents struggling to come to terms with what it means to have a 2e child. They celebrate and they grieve. It is hard to acknowledge that your child is different. Twice exceptional children think differently, they...

Toddlers and teens have a lot in common. They are cranky, hard to please, intractable, dramatic, and unpredictable. Twice exceptional preteens can take it to a whole new level. While it can be unnerving, there is a good reason why your preteen is acting like a toddler. A toddler’s brain is all about learning language and an adolescent’s brain is trying to acquire emotional language. There is a lot of growing going on.

I recently wrote a note to a student telling her how much I admired her efforts. She told me it was a little sappy. I admit it, I am sappy. I am a happy, glass-half-full, in-love–with-the-world kind of person. Which is probably the best kind of person to work with 2e children, since they call it like they see it. I know plenty of people who might have been hurt by such a comment, but I was thrilled. It represents a level of trust. We have a relationship that allows her to feel she can be authentic. You have to have a pretty thick skin to get along with Twice-exceptional (2e) children. They have an uncanny skill for finding your insecurities. They will expose your underbelly before you even knew you were letting it hang out. You definitely have to be the grown up.